2. Review on modal verbs for different purposes
2. Expressing Sympathy or concern
3. Reading Skills: Analyzing creative writing
EXPRESSIONS OF SYMPATHY
Be compassionate.
Give your friend permission to express his or
her feelings without fear of criticism. Learn from your friend; don't instruct
or set expectations about how he or she should respond. Never say, "I know
just how you feel." You don't. Think about your helper role as someone who
"walks with," not "behind" or "in front of" the
one who is mourning. Allow your friend to experience all the hurt,
sorrow and pain that he or she is feeling at the time. Enter into your friend's
feelings, but never try to take them away. And recognize that tears are a
natural and appropriate expression of the pain associated with the death.
Avoid clichés.
Words, particularly clichés, can be extremely
painful for a grieving friend. Clichés are trite comments often intended to
diminish the loss by providing simple solutions to difficult realities.
Comments like, "You are holding up so well," "Time heals all
wounds," "Think of all you still have to be thankful for" or
"Just be happy that he's out of his pain" are not constructive.
Instead, they hurt and make a friend's journey through grief more difficult.
Understand the
uniqueness of grief.
Keep in mind that your friend's grief is
unique. No one will respond to the death of someone loved in exactly the same
way. While it may be possible to talk about similar phases shared by grieving
people, everyone is different and shaped by experiences in their own unique
lives.
No comments:
Post a Comment